Today on this article I would like to address a topic that I received a lot of questions on it...
and that’s is about how to deal with negative people...
Now that you should probably experienced when you spent time with positive, uplift, happy people, u usually sent to notice that you begin to feel more positive, empower yourself. But when you spent time with negative people, who always seem to criticize themselves, it could be difficult to maintain a positive attitude. As Mark Twain said, “Keep away form people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great. “
So to help you creates a positive network around yourself that would help you to stay on your track and also could help you to achieving your goals, I would like to share my tips on how to remove a bad influence of negative people in your life.
There are two types of negative people:
1. someone who usually is pleasant to be around, but due to stress or a bad situation they're going through, their outlook on life is a bit negative for the time being, like when we woke up on the wrong side of the bed or when we have a bad day….. And that is normal.
2. people who are constantly negative and unpleasant day in and day out. The top of toxic person who always seems to be complaining about one thing or another. But despite your support, your encouragement or your advise, they really didn’t do anything to change the situation (aka THE LOSER).
So, here are 4 steps that you can follow to make sure you avoid this:
a. Detoxing your life from the influence of negative people is to identify who these people are. Friends, family member, co-worker, is there any one on your circle that you feel consistently negative influence on your life? Write his name down. After that we can go to second step
b. Do what you can to minimize the amount of time that you spend with these people. At first you might think that this act a little bit harsh. But, here’s something important to keep in mind: YOU AND YOU ALONE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR ATTITUDE AND YOUR ENERGY. If you're not feeling good about yourself or whatever reason, it's your own responsibility to do something to change that and choosing your network a little more carefully is one of the bast way that you can do. Now, one of these negative people happen to be a friend or friend of a friend for example, it's pretty easy to limit the amount of time you spent with him/her. But it can be a little tricky to cut 'em out, if this is happen with one of your family member. One way to minimize the amount of time that you spend with them is to follow what I call the 80/20 rule. Aim to spend about 80% of your time with positively charge happy people to actually leave your feeling inspired and empowered and just 20% of your time with those people that you feel close to you that “negative aura” could energetically draining you. This bring you to step 3 which is,
c. Release yourself from feeling guilty for making this important and powerful choice to spend less time with them. Rather than feel bad and not being there for others and letting another down by taking this approach, remember there is up to your to take charge of your life and your well being. No one else will do it for you. Well, its compassionate to give your time and your energy for others, keep in mind that there is nothing enlighten about throwing yourself under the bus just for the shake of making someone else better. So be good to yourself.
d. Surround yourself with positive people who believe in you, support your ambitions and encourage you to go after what's important to you. Now you may already some of this people in your life and if you don’t, do what you can to make them. Accept invitation to go out to new places while you might make new positively charge people, encourage people to improve their confidence or speaking ability and etc. surrounding yourself with positive support people system of people who truly want to prosper and succeed is vital/part of for your success when you countering any big and excited goal that you may accept for yourself, and I know it crucial for me.
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